Wednesday, April 9, 2014

RELATIONS WEDNESDAY: Are You In A Dead-end Relationship?



     "Why am I here?" If that's a question you ask yourself more often than not about your mate, you may need to ask yourself another question. Am I in a dead-end relationship?

       Technically a dead-end relationship is one that doesn't last for one reason or another. Well I see it simple. Either it ends or it doesn't. Either it's a dead-end relationship or not.


     4 tell-tale signs that you're in a..



   1. You've lowered your standards

How low is too low?

    The characteristics you once deemed completely unacceptable, you now tolerate. 
How much and for how long can you tolerate? We're all human so we're flawed. But have you both made sacrifices for the better of the relationship? Loving and accepting someone for who they are and tolerating who they are not are not the same. 
    

    2. You're embarrassed by him

You're afraid others may find out about your relationship.

      Oh this one is a dead give-away. If you are ashamed of your man then maybe you're more concerned about what other people think than you should. Or maybe it's proof that you're dealing with someone you know you shouldn't.

    3. You want two different things

"We're just in two different places" 
        It may sound cliche' but it is not to be taken lightly. You're ready to take your relationship to the next level and he's not or vice-versa. This can affect your relationship more than you think. If how you envision your future together looks drastically different from his, a dead-end could be in the near future.

   4. There's no chemistry
     
The spark is gone.

        Cringing at the sight of him or the slightest touch of him is just not a good sign. It's going to take a lot more than a spark to have a lasting relationship and if you don't at least have that then someone's bound to get hurt. Take caution you may be headed towards a dead-end.





By Na'Shun, Founder and Contributor
The Brown Queens' Constitution

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

TRESSES TUESDAY: Work Is Cramping My Hairstyle



         Does your job dictate how you wear your hair? Mine certainly does. But that's no news at all. Many jobs will tell you how you can't wear your hair or what to do to constrain it in the work place. In order to remain "professional" and keep my job I comply with the rules. But these rules are really cramping my style. And natural hair is a whole other issue to be dealt with. I've wanted to color my hair for the longest and I am afraid that my job will not approve. Although there's nothing in the guidelines that say I can't wear my hair a certain color, I have a feeling that the color I'm going for may be a bit too edgy for their constrictions. I'm thinking I may give them a teaser and go with highlights first just to see their reaction. Or I could just ask them but that's no fun. Queens are not to be stifled. Don't they know that?!

What are the rules about hair at your job?

Do you comply with the rules?

Do you challenge the rules?

Has your boss ever made a comment about your hair?

Let us know your thoughts…

By Na'Shun, Founder and Contributor
The Brown Queens' Constitution
Photo from Pinterest


Monday, April 7, 2014

MUSIC MONDAY: Queen of The Dancehall

     
       Hi, Queens! Na'Shun here. The last 2 months have been quite eventful for myself and the Brown Queens' Constitution. We celebrated 2 years at the end of February and have made some additions to the team. You'll find out more about that soon enough. I'm extremely excited! We've broken from our routine of BQC weeks BUT we are back. Now back to your regular scheduled programming; It's MUSIC MONDAY!




         An island girl has taken over my body. I don't know if it's because the weather is getting warmer or if it's this faint desire I've had to be on a Caribbean island with a bright colored beverage garnished with an umbrella at hand that has me in a reggae mood.

       I traveled to Atlanta for a friend's birthday a few weeks ago. We went out for a night on the town and were bombarded with the many options that crowd Atlanta's nightlife. We ended up going to a reggae club which in hindsight, I'm so glad we did. It was probably one of the best times I've had at a club in a while.

       The atmosphere was much different than the other spots I've attended. It looked like a scene out of a Beenie Man video.(Remember him?) It was hot but if you were dancing you didn't mind it. It was pretty sexy and not to mention FUN. But the music... the music is the reason for this post.




   Reggae tunes filled my ears and I was consumed. The DJ played the greatest reggae hits and even reggaton renditions of r&b/hip hop songs I'd never heard before. I pulled all the moves that I ever learned from the Sean Paul videos as if I were at a dancehall in the middle of St. Thomas. It was quite liberating... and so I've been inspired. I won't keep this party to myself. "Dutty wind gul" Enjoy. Happy MUSIC MONDAY!

***The BQC playlist includes 
One love x Bob Marley
Is This Love x Corrine Bailey Ray
Need You Bad x Jazmine Sullivan
Three Little Birds x Bob Marley
Girls Them Sugar x Beenie Man
Baby Boy x Beyonce’
No Letting Go x Wayne Wonder
Gimme The Light x Sean Paul
It Wasn’t Me x Shaggy***








By Na'Shun, Founder and Contributor
The Brown Queens' Constituion





Thursday, February 13, 2014

Interest Meeting for The Brown Queens' Constitution

Hear about the vision for The Brown Queens' Constitution next Friday from 5:30 - 7 pm at The University of Memphis FedEx Institute of Technology. Come out and learn how you can be apart of  building one of the newest most refreshing and forward moving brands, The BQC!





The BQC turns 2 today! Thank you!

      On behalf of myself and The Brown Queens' Constitution team, we would like to thank every one who has visited the blog, liked a Facebook post, or even gave our posts a glance. We're more than thankful for you. The Brown Queens' Constitution is an ongoing celebration of women of African Heritage and our culture. It's a celebration that every gender creed and color is invited to join every day of the BQC week. The BQC is for all tints shades and dynamics of the brown girl. It's the extraordinary things you do on a daily basis the make you Queen worthy. We celebrate your majesty, Brown Queens, because you are everyday royalty. If you haven't already; please join the blog and like our Facebook page. We're preparing a greater BQC experience for our viewers. Thank you again for hanging with us so far and get ready as we kick things up a notch because (In our best Kevin Hart impersonation) "It's. About. To go. Down."

- Na'Shun Wright, Founder of The Brown Queens' Constitution




Sunday, February 9, 2014

SOUL SEARCH SUNDAY: Most Viewed

Sunday, March 18, 2012


Soul Search Sunday: In Good Company

Tragedies of life are always hard to get through. They are even harder to get through alone. Being in good company always makes the difficult times that much easier to cope with. Surround yourself with loved ones and tackle life's challenges together.

Saturday, February 8, 2014

SERVICE SATURDAY: Most Viewed

Saturday, March 17, 2012




SERVICE SATURDAY: In Honor of Jared Thomas - Donate to The American Heart Association

Today I made a donation to The American Heart Association in honor of my friend, Jared Thomas, who passed last week as a result of his heart condition. This is close to me because my younger brother was born with a small heart murmur as well. He was a dear friend to so many and he will be missed forever. I would like to help gain awareness for heart diseases in his honor by way of the American Heart Association. Go to http://www.heart.org/ to make a donation of any amount and find out how you can help save someone else's dear friend from heart disease. There is also a video below about The American Heart Association. Thank you for taking the time out to read this post. Rest peacefully, Jared. I love you!









Thursday, February 6, 2014

THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY: Most Viewed

Thursday, June 7, 2012


Thoughtful Thursday: Advice, Anyone??

You know what to do. If you need advice about anything, post below under comments or shoot me an e-mail. The e-mail address is thebqc@yahoo.com. Be sure to type "advice" in the subject line and I'll respond right here on The BQC!!

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

RELATIONS WEDNESDAY: Most Viewed

Wednesday, July 4, 2012


RELATIONS WEDNESDAY: Meet The Family

How soon is too soon to meet the family?? I am an advocate for not bringing every guy to meet your parents especially if they're not going to be around long. If you know it will be short winded from beginning, I wouldn't bother. After the third date sounds like a good time to introduce the guy you're dating to your parents. By then you know if you'll be embarrassed by him or if he can impress your parents the way he impressed you. (Tip) If you know your parent's would not approve of your guy in any way, should you really be dating him? A family dinner at your parent's is the traditional "meet the family" setting. Try something fun like going bowling with your parents and your guy. The setting takes some of the pressure off of your guy. Holidays are great for meeting the extended family. If your family is the type to grill a guy, be sure not to leave your guy alone for too long. That can be intimidating for him. If he can hold his own throughout the interrogation, that's a good sign for you. Meeting the family is something that has to be timed just right. Too soon can make him feel like you're getting too serious too fast. Waiting too long can be offensive. But the good thing is once it's over it's a relief to have your family meet someone who is beginning to mean a lot to you. Now you can concentrate on other things like impressing his parents.

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

TRESSES TUESDAY: Most Viewed

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Tresses Tuesday: Beautiful New Eurasian Hair

OK so Brown Queens you know we love our hair. Sometimes we add personality pieces to give us that full and long fabulous celebrity look. If you're looking for quality hair extensions then Brown Queen, Jasmine Anderson, is your girl! She's selling brand new beautiful Eurasian Hair by Ovation. The types and prices are listed below. The weaves are good investments if you plan on keeping them for a while. Judging from the fabulous pics Jasmine sent me of the hair, I would recommend it to all you weave wearing Brown Queens. Looks like a great investment, Ladies. You know I'm always in support of a Brown Queen putting her entrepreneurial foot forward.

Contact Jasmine Anderson at her email address: demjassychicks@gmail.com or visit her site: https://sites.google.com/site/demjassychicks/


Jasmine Anderson- I recommend this hair to the true weave wearers who are looking for a natural and celeb hairstyle and are looking for an investment. You can reuse the virgin hair up to a year +. You can color it , perm it, and swim in it; whatever you like. It comes in bodywave, medium wave, tight curl, and straight 12-24 in.

12in- $125


15in- $150
18in-$180
21in-$210
24in-$240
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Monday, February 3, 2014

MUSIC MONDAY: Most Viewed

Monday, March 26, 2012



Music Monday: We love the 90's- The Super List


Welcome back, Brown Queens. It's MUSIC MONDAY!!! I'm so excited about this post not only because it's about music, but it's also about one of the best decades to produce so much great music. I'm talking about the 90's. Today on MUSIC MONDAY we're going to travel back in time, not too far back, but just far enough. If you were around in the 90's then you remember the baggy jeans we wore (women and men), the dark lipstick, midriffs, jean ensembles, leather pants, big stereos, and two-sided cassette tapes. The music of the 90's was filled with feel good music, r&b love ballads, socially conscious hip hop, gangster rap, etc. Some of the best girl groups also came out in the 90's too. Brown Queens thrived in the 90's along with so many other artists. Here are some of the artists that kept us " jammin' " in the 90's! The music is so good that there are 15 90's songs added to the playlist this week! What are some of your favorite 90's artists? Share them with us! Join, comment, and tell ALL of your friends.
  • Brandy
  • TLC
  • Aaliyah
  • Destiny's Child
  • R. Kelly
  • Michael Jackson
  • Janet Jackson
  • Whitney Houston
  • Montell Jordan
  • Missy Elliot
  • Dru Hill
  • 112
  • SWV
  • Monica
  • En Vogue
  • X- Scape
  • Babyface
  • Total
  • 702
  • Blaque
  • Mary J. Blige
  • Usher
  • Ma$e
  • Boys II Men
  • Kelly Price
  • Joe
  • Case
  • Ginuwine
  • Donell Jones
  • Mariah Carey
  • Bill Biv Devoe
  • Notorious B.I.G
  • Tupac
  • Dr. Dre
  • Ice Cube
  • Toni Braxton
  • Jon B
  • Tyrese
  • Next
  • Nas
  • Jay-Z
  • Common
  • Outkast
  • Naughty by Nature
  • The Roots
  • Goodie Mob
  • Lil' Kim
  • Foxy Brown
  • Snoop Dogg
  • Lauryn Hill
  • Coolio
  • LL Cool J
  • The Fresh Prince
  • DMX
  • Bone Thugs n Harmony
  • The Fugees
  • Mya
  • Queen Latifah
  • Deborah Cox
  • Puff Daddy (That was his name in the 90's)
  • Faith Evans
  • Erykah Badu
  • Common
***Playlist includes Tell Me What you Want x Mase ft. Total, The Rain x Missy Elliott, Creep x TLC, I Wanna Be Down (Remix) x Brandy, No No No Pt. 1 x Destiny's Child, You're Making Me High x Toni Braxton, Where My Girls At? x 702, Rosa Parks x OutKast, 808 x Blaque, Are You That Somebody x Aaliyah, Kissing You x Faith Evans, We Can't Be Friends x Deborah Cox & R.L., Friend of Mine x Kelly Price, Secret x XSCAPE, Remember The Time x Michael Jackson***

Sunday, February 2, 2014

SOUL SEARCH SUNDAY: 1st Runner-Up

Sunday, February 17, 2013

SOUL SEARCH SUNDAY: Fast-forward To The Good Part


Don't you wish you could fast-forward to what you think will be the best part of your life? Wouldn't it be great to skip the hard work and skip right to the rewards? Or skip the awkward meetings and jump right into your happily ever after? We often think about rewinding life, going back, to change something we regret. But what a gift it would be to forget those regrets and fast-forward life right? Wrong. As much as I hate to admit it, it's all necessary. Time does not speed up or slow down. There's no remote control to life that fast-forwards your late night studying or multiplies the money you've been saving for that big thing you've been wanting to do. All the time it takes to get there is necessary for things to align just the way you need them to. When things are great you want them to be just right. There are things in your life that must fall apart before they fall into place. Skipping important scenes in your life would be like skipping to a great ending without knowing how you got there. You can't thoroughly enjoy a great ending until you've experienced what it took to get there. Life is an experience. Make the best of it. If you put on your best performance, your director is sure to give you his best 'RE'ward-winning work.

Saturday, February 1, 2014

SERVICE SATURDAY: 1st Runner-Up

Saturday, May 11, 2013


"We do this!"... Three words you can expect to hear from Jeremy Calhoun and Alton Cryer when it comes to serving the community. These words are backed up by action through their community outreach program, STS Enterprise, Setting The Standard. Both seniors at The University of Memphis(Go Tigers), Jeremy and Alton founded STS in November of 2012 with hopes of setting a new standard through mentoring, public speaking, and of course community outreach.
On April 27, 2013, STS hosted a volunteer event entitled "Bridging the Gap" where fellow college students came out to senior community home, Wesley Senior Ministries. From 9:30am- 12pm STS spent quality time with the seniors, serving breakfast, playing games, and engaging in good ol' conversation. Jeremy and Alton both agree; It's critical for the youth to spend time with the seniors assuring them that someone is still thinking of them and cares about their well-being. The gentlemen note that many of them have outlived their family members. The room was filled with transactions of youthful energy and graceful wisdom as STS connected with the seniors. I wasn't at Wesley Senior Ministries for very long. However, within that short period of time I was able to interact with the seniors as I joined in on a game of bowling on the Wii. Also, my perception of senior homes was changed almost immediately. Spending time with seniors as community service was never my preference and often takes the backseat to volunteering with children or mentoring youth. I quickly found out that it's a necessary service and sometimes teachers have to sit down and be taught. There's so much to learn from the seasoned individuals right in our own communities. Jeremy and Alton seek to make this a monthly event and welcome any others who wish to volunteer their time with any of their service opportunities.
On behalf of The Brown Queens' Constitution, I would like to thank STS Enterprise for inviting me and I wish your organization much success. These are the very deeds that make you what we at The BQC call "Everyday Royalty"!! You have the support of The Brown Queens always! #BrownQueensSupportBrownKings Thank you for what you do!

Contact STS to inquire about volunteer events.
Email: myststenterprise@gmail.com
Phone: (Jeremy Calhoun) (901)- 378-2223
Like STS Enterprise on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/STSEnterprise

Friday, January 31, 2014

FASHION FRENZY FRIDAY: 1st Runner-Up

Friday, November 9, 2012

FASHION FRENZY FRIDAY: Color Block Challenge Cont'd

On the last FASHION FRENZY FRIDAY we asked that you send in pics of your best color blocked fits! Thanks to everyone that participated and sent in pics to thebqc@yahoo.com! We really appreciated the support of the challenge. As promised, here are the Queen's that rocked the color block challenge.!! Happy FASHION FRENZY FRIDAY, Queens!


** If you want to send in your pics, it's not too late. We'll take pics of your color blocked fit until the next FASHION FRENZY FRIDAY! Send them to thebqc@yahoo.com**





JC
Hot stuff!

Erica

Cute fit, Erica! Love the shoes!



D'LeAnn and I






Dee's mom, Felicia
We can see exactly where D'LeAnn gets her great sense of style!
Her mom is fabulous.
I think it's safe to say...
"She get it from her mama"



Great job, Queens!
- The BQC

Thursday, January 30, 2014

THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY: 1st Runner-Up

Thursday, February 28, 2013

THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY: We've Got Advice!

Hello, Queens! Today is THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY where your thoughts matter! If you ever need any advice on anything feel free to email me at thebqc@yahoo.com, with advice in the subject line.

Stephanie, Memphis, TN, writes "My best friend just recently told me she is gay. I always had my suspicions but I never really payed attention to it. Now that she has told me this, I don't know how to feel. I want to still be her friend but this is kind of hard for me to understand. What should I do?"

- Hello Stephanie, I understand your problem all too well and I can say that everything will be just fine. You have to learn how to accept people for who they are. Although you may not understand her motives or reasoning you should not let this stop your friendship. In any friendship rules and guidelines should be established to make sure neither one of you cross the wrong boundaries. Just remember that just because her sexual orientation is different does not mean your friendship should be any different. Its all about understanding and not being so quick to judge and i'm sure your relationship will not be tarnished because of this.

Posted by Magan

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

RELATIONS WEDNESDAY: 1st Runner-Up

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

RELATIONS WEDNESDAY: Great Expectations

Where do you see yourself in 10 years? Do you see a family with kids? 2 or 3? Maybe you don't see that in ten years. Perhaps you see yourself with a thriving career and traveling. You may even see yourself having it all. I definitely have a vision for where I expect to be in 10 years. I see myself with a family, husband and children, and a fulfilling career. It doesn't mean that it will happen but I'm definietly hopeful; can't see it any other way at the moment. We hear that saying that goes,"With great expectations comes great disappointment." However, we can't help but be hopeful that our great expectations will happen just as we envisioned them. When it comes to planning for the future, we are not always the best judge of character of those who could possiby be in our life during the next ten years and thereafter. We often develop relationships with people who probably shouldn't have ten minutes of our time let alone a minimum of ten years of our life. We don't always think of the time we're wasting with people that don't and will not meet our standards and expectations for the future. Thank goodness expectations and standards can be adjusted or I'm afraid none of us would ever be truly happy. Of course those of us who don't have many expectations will have no worries because they're assumingly satisfied with their current state. That definitely sounds like an easier way of living but I'm not sure if it sounds logical. What do you think? What are your expectations for the future?







Posted by Na'Shun Wright